These Are Friends You Can Depend On

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Cheers to the late Chadwick Boseman, who graduated from “The Mecca” Howard University in the nation’s capital, and his tight-knit circle of friends: He has always had them around him. Cheers, again, to these friends because, damn, they are good friends to have, especially during these latter days filled with trouble and gloom — what about your friends, you know, that song TLC sang back in the day when black sistas and brothas started wearing bright colors? And no, not the 2010s when men everywhere started to wear bright colors, but hey.

Guilty. And that’s neither here nor there. Let us continue to discuss a bit more of Boseman’s friends, though, shall we? Because we all could have some while this quarantine craziness and depression and loneliness has become our “new normal”: I wrote a story about it — which I compare them to your tight-knit circle of friends or the lack thereof — in the post Here Is To The Circle Of Friends That Late Howard Grad Chadwick Boseman Had on HBCU Buzz after his untimely death at the end of 2020.

Excerpt from that TLC song:

Friends
What about your friends?
What about?
Friends
What about your friends?
What about, what about?

Every now and then I get a little crazy
That’s not the way it’s supposed to be
Sometimes my vision is a little hazy
I can’t tell who I should trust
Or just who I let trust me, yeah

People try to say I act a little funny
But that’s just a figure of speech to me
They tell me I changed because I got money
But if you were there before
Then you’re still down with me

What about your friends?
Will they stand their ground?
Will they let you down? hey yay

What about your friends?
Are they gonna be low down?
Will they ever be around?
Or will they turn their backs on you?

Of how these friends had never spoken word(s) about him privately facing Stage 3 cancer and Stage 4 cancer, even when he had starred in the Avengers and the iconic Black Panther films, I wrote:

“The late Chadwick Boseman, who graduated from ‘The Mecca’ Howard University in the nation’s capital, had to have had one of the best tight neck groups of friends that we have ever seen. According to The Hollywood Reporter, they never told a soul about his condition while he first suffered from Stage 3 cancer and recently succumbed to Stage 4 cancer…

These are the friends who stood proudly by Boseman’s side during his last days here on earth, holding some personal and private information like the four-year battle with cancer that he faced to themselves as well. Bravo! Since this is what makes (excuse my French) a damn good friend.

THR also reported that these friends knew he was a “private person.” …

Friends like the black college grad had are ones that we can depend on: They never told what they learned from the beginning…

Not necessarily because he probably wished that the fatal illness that took his life remained private, but more so because that is what exactly friends are for: They stood for love and loyalty in a desperate need for both of these qualities because, um, trust issues…

Take this for an example: put yourself in Boseman’s shoes and consider your circle of friends. I bet that the cat would have been out of the bag faster than a 90s kid running back home after the street lights lit the block.”

In Stephen Mansfield’s Building Your Band of Brothers, I read that no man is whole by himself and that it takes friends to do that. Well, as I previously mentioned, Boseman and his friends were tight, and thus ones that we can depend on: Or, perhaps, we should be that friend for someone else.

“No matter what would have been the case, though, especially given that they told anyone, Boseman still had to have faith and endure to the end, despite it all. He had to keep his mind on eternal things, not temporal things, while life might have seemed bleak, at least for him. After all, he knew that he had faced an uphill battle…

Boseman’s weight had declined, and some people laughed at his pain, not knowing what he was suffering from: He showed great courage and bravery, smiling through said pain…

Amazing! …

During his commencement speech earlier this year in August at Howard, Boseman spoke boldly about the many things from God that are in store for us, which is of good, saying, “When God has something for you, it doesn’t matter who stands against it.”…

“God will move someone that’s holding you back away from the door and put someone there who will open it for you if it’s meant for you,” he said, standing over a crowd of proud Howard graduates who probably looked up to him. He continued, “I don’t know what your future is, but if you are willing to take the harder way, the more complicated one, the one with more failures at first than successes, the one that has ultimately proven to have more meaning, more victory, more glory then you will not regret it.” …

That somebody or somebodies that had opened the door into a loving space where no judgment was taken place that Boseman spoke of toward the latter part of a now unforgettable speech certainly must have been the mentioned family members and friends that loved him dearly, those who were reportedly told by him that he had cancer and that he was fighting to try to take control of his life…

That is, a life that was navigating a new-found low, that has had some early success, and recent fame. This is impressive in part because it shows a sense of loyalty and respect that these individuals honestly, and truly had for Boseman, and in part because, it seems to me, usually this is not the case, even to keep a secret or a promise that someone may or may not confide to you.”

Head over to HBCUBuzz.com to read more.

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